Hiyaa (Part 5) - Blog post English

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Remember the 'prince charming' that we all dreamed of having as kids until reality hit us?
One thing that you will notice about that prince charming, is his commitment. His commitment towards the girl that he likes.
The moment a prince charming likes a girl, he has his eyes only on her. He refers to her as his princess because he envisions of marrying her and having her in his future. He plans on telling his parents (the king and the queen) about her as soon as possible. Because he is very clear about what he wants. And he doesn't budge until he gets what he wants.
Compare this to what Allah and His Messenger (SAW) taught us. We were taught that when we like someone, we must approach them for marriage, nothing else. There is no playing games with emotions. There are no insecurities of whether the relationship will reach its most beautiful days. There is no long gap between liking someone and reaching a happy ending with him/her.
And now think about what's trending these days. The dating scene that puts us in such emotional insecurities. The relationships that we hoped will reach a happy ending but didn't. The compassion fatigue that happens after every single break up. Subhaanallah!
So dear sisters, don't go after someone who offers you a relationship outside of a marriage. Raise your standards and only accept someone who has the commitment to offer you a marriage. If they like you, ask if they are ready for such a commitment. Because clearly you deserve nothing less!

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